本书是《在同一世界——面对外国人101题》姊妹篇，也是世界认识中国的一个窗口，大家可以从中国历史文化、人民的衣食住行、中国人的思维逻辑、风俗文化等多个侧面，再次领会中外文化的差异，读出万紫千红的中国文化色彩。

In 101 Stories for foreigners to Understand Chinese People,Yi and Bryan Ellis tell stories about their experiences living in China to introduce elements of Chinese culture,etiquette and interpersonal interaction.

When they moved from New York City to Shanghai three years ago, they read several guide books and thought they were prepared. But dozens of small yet significant cultural differences caught them by surprise!

Three years (and numerous faux pas, misunderstandings and misinterpretations) later, they have written this book to help readers benefit from their experiences. Their stories explain both the "what's" and the "why's" of Chinese customs, so that readers can better understand and appreciate the Chinese way of thinking and living. Often,what seems bizarre and strange at first makes perfect sense if you see it from a Chinese perspective. Yi and Bryan have enjoyed learning about Chinese culture and hope that the readers will enjoy this journey of discovery as well.

Author's Foreword

Ⅰ . First Encounters: Greetings in China

 1. Happy to Hear "Ni Hao!" (Hello)

 2. Shakes, Hugs and Kisses

 3. Mrs. Wang's Husband Is Not Mr. Wang

 4. Firm or Soft Handshake?

 5. Where Are You From?

 6. You Are One When You Are Born

Ⅱ . Chinese Modesty

 7. Virtue of Modesty

 8. Can't Take a Compliment

 9. Humility vs. Confidence

 10. Don't Show Off, Especially Your Wealth

 11. "I Will Do My Best"

 12. Thin Face and Thick Skin

Ⅲ . Restaurant Etiquette

 1&The Chinese Seating Chart

 14. Private Rooms at Restaurants

 15. Shouting for Waiters

 16. One Menu per Table

 17. Where Are My Appetizers?

 18. Seat Covers in Restaurants

 19. Toasting

 20. Slurping Hot Soup

 21. Knocking on the Table

 22. Fighting for the Check in Restaurants

 23. Restaurant Receipt Lottery

 24. Lukewarm Recommendations

Ⅳ . Everyday Etiquette and Customs

 25. Different Sizes of Personal Space

 26. Don't Leave Any Gap When You Stand in Queue!

 27. Getting Personal

 28. The Meaning of a Gentleman

 29. Girls Holding Hands?

 30. Gentlemen First

 31. Arriving Late, Leaving Early

 32. Ring, Ring, Go Ahead, Answer the Phone

 33. Keep the Pants On!

 34. Sneezing vs. "Honking"

 35. Right of Way

 36. Hang Your Laundry Out

 37. Parks at Night Are for Lovers

 38. The Old Ladies Cheered Me On!

 39. Singing with Your Friends

 40. Bathrobes on the Beach

 41.She Can't Hear What She Does Not Understand

Ⅴ . Beliefs

 42. Big Ears and Fleshy Noses Are Lucky

 43. Colors and Traditions

 44. Numbers and Meanings

 45. Animals and Symbols

 46. Fruity Symbolism

 47. Birthday Celebrations

 48. Unusual Birthdays

Ⅵ . Food and Drink

 49. No Cold Water for Guests

 50. How Do I Drink Green Tea?

 51. Beer, Red Wine, or Hard Liquor?

 52. It's Better If You Cook It

 53. Please Take Away the Heads

 54. The Ways of Water

 55. Rice or Noodle

 56. Noodles for Birthdays

 57. The Hundred-Year-Old Egg

 58. "Stinky but Yummy"

 59. Jellyfish, Sea Cucumbers, and Goose Feet

 60. A Tofu Meal for the Funeral

Ⅶ . Shopping and Gift-giving

 61. The Art of Bargaining

 62. How Much Did You Pay for That?

 63. Loyalty Matters

 64. Lucky Coin

 65. Don't Open Gifts in front of Others

 66. "Special Treatment" of Foreigners

 67. Food, Alcohol, and Cigarettes as Gifts

 68. Red Envelopes

 69. Never Give a Clock as a Gift

Ⅷ . Understanding the Chinese Family

 70. Living with Parents

 71. Love through Food

 72. "You Gained Weight!"

 73. Money and Family

 74. Wife Walks behind Husband

 75. A Husband's Expectations

 76.Strong-headed Shanghai Woman

Ⅸ . What They Say vs. What They Mean

 77. 1 Know & I Understand

 78. "No Problem" or Big Problem?

 79. Hearing What They Didn't Say

 80. Little & Old

 81. Wife & Mistress

 82. What Does Your Hand Say?

Ⅹ . Doing Business in China

 83. Business Cards

 84. A Chop Makes it Legal

 85. The Boss Knows the Answer, Even When He or She Doesn't

 86. Sitting Side by Side

 87. Eye Contact

 88. The Last Two Minutes

 89. What Kind of Golf Lessons Do You Want?

 90. From Embarrassment to Friendship

Ⅺ . Raising Children in China

 91. Clicking and Clapping

 92. No Time to Relax

 93. No Crying Babies

 94. No Baby Showers before Birth

 95. Naming a Child

Ⅻ . Health and Medicine

 96. Voodoo Medicine or Miracle Drug

 97. The Importance of Wearing Socks

 98. Don't Sit on the Floor

 99. BO Is a Disease

 100. Male or Female?

 101. New Mother's Confinement

Afterword